Is sexual desire complicated?
Are sexual desire and love one and the same? Does sexual desire arise from love and can love stem from sex? Does the attitude of men and women towards sex and love differ? Does one have to fall in love with someone to experience sex to its fullest? Or can a sexual encounter with a stranger make one fall in love with that stranger? Can sexual desires be so strong that you can do anything to get yourself some moments of sexual pleasure? Sex and Lucia raised a hundred questions in my mind and left me seeking answers.
The movie has some sexy make out scenes. They are so brilliantly shot that you are left grasping for breath. The play of light and the innovative camera angles during the sex scenes makes it exciting to watch. There are no in your face and gross images of two bodies in the act. Sexy and sensuous scenes shot aesthetically promise to titillate you not gross you out. All typical fantasies including sex in water, under the moonlight, blind folded, strip tease are played around with. Bare bodies are shown without any apprehension, the actors look most comfortable in their skin baring their bodies during the act. The usually sexist director who shows off only the female sex organs to arouse the male audience has shown the male sex organ liberally. This especially, doesn't make you feel like you are watching sex from the point of view of a man. A more holistic approach lifts the sex to another level.
Point taken: A sexual moment with someone you are not in love with can sometimes be so beautiful that you want to cherish it for life. But when it comes to someone you love, such memories fade in comparison. To be intimate with someone you love can give you a great high, grab you and make you fall deeper in love with your lover.
So can lack of sex for a while in a relationship lead to emotional distance between the couple? And can good sex with another person lead you to leave someone you love?
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I believe that sex is an integral part of a relationship but if sex is the very foundation of a relationship, it may not last long. But...well...each one us experiences things differently!
3 comments:
In answer to the first question: Hell yes, sexual desire is complicated! For one, it transcends all laws of morality and common sense. For instance, you might be in a loving, strong, healthy relationship and might still be physically attracted to someone else. You might try very very hard to resist this other person, but sexual desire can make a person do uncharacteristic things.
I don't think sex and love are the same at all. I think sex can be a physical manifestation of love and I think sex can be a physical manifestation of just good ol' lust.
But I do think sex is integral to any relationship, and can be a beautiful form of communication. So many relationships fall apart because of sex or lack thereof. I don't think that's shallow at all -I think it's just human. Sex begets both physical and emotional intimacy that is incomparable to anything else. We need that for our relationships to last. And yes, sometimes I think good sex with someone else can make us believe that we're in love with that person, whether or not it's neccessarily true.
I don't think you have to be in love to get the most out of a sexual encounter. Sometimes sexual encounters with a stranger CAN make you fall in love with them. Ahem. ;)
Sigh. Sex.
hi supu like i told u before sex in an integral part of a relationship. people have diffrent ways to express their feelings, some use words, some express it in their behaviour whlie a few can express their feelings and love only in bed. Rahul is one such person, he does not like to talk and expects me to understand his feelings, for him sex is the best way to say how much he loves me. but for me its different, i like to show it in my behaviour and express it in words.
i strongly belive, to have sex i need to not only know that person but also love him, i cant even imagine of having sex with some one i dont know. this does not mean that i dont get physicaly attracted to some one but cant think of taking such a drastic step. anyways pls give me the cd i would like to see the movie, may be then i might change my openion.
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